Head Prefect, Ella Miels and Deputy Head Prefect, Ingrid Ledger talk Galentine’s Day!
This week, we are creating a parallel to Valentine’s Day – Galentine’s Day. Our focal point of Galentine’s Day is the relationships that we have with the ‘gals’ around us.
Letters of Note
We reflected on one of our favourite books called ‘Letters of Note’ by Shaun Usher. This book is a compilation of 125 letters from people all around the world, each capturing the humour, seriousness, sadness and brilliance that make up all of our lives. In particular, we reflected on one of the letters written by F. Scott Fitzgerald (Author of The Great Gatsby), which he sent to his 11-year-old daughter while she was away on camp. The letter contains advice about which aspects of life to worry about and which aspects to not. These include ‘courage’ and ‘efficiency’, as well as things not to worry about, such as ‘anybody getting ahead of you’ and ‘growing up’.
Friendship: A Two Way Street
To us, friendship is a two way street; you must give some to take some. Fitzgerald’s letter illustrates this perfectly through his unwavering support for his daughter. He offers her advice but encourages her to carry it out independently and therefore allows her to develop personally; allows her to become a better person through her own effort.
Friendship functions in a similar fashion, you are there to make each other better people through your shared experiences, have fun and enjoy life. However, if you give too much support, the other person can’t handle you. If you give too little, you appear distant and unconcerned. So where is the sweet spot? The optimum level of support?
Build Each Other Up
As teenage girls, we feel that the optimum level of support is achieved through a ratio of 7:3 between encouragement and advice. Advice includes constructive criticism with regards to behaviour, whilst encouragement includes positivity, fun times, laughter and hope for one another.
Girls, it’s important to remember that we need to build each other up, not tear each other down. As a result of this, we challenge you to self reflect on your friendship support levels by asking yourself the following:
- Do you fall too far left or right on the scale?
- How often do you make critical comments every day?
- Are you always the first and last person to speak?
- Do you consider the feelings of others before acting?
If you find your answer to any of these to be enlightening, take a step back, reassess and set goals for yourself. Self reflection makes us better and more effective people: and also better friends. If you don’t feel like setting goals, that’s fine. However we ask that you follow our golden rule:
Treat others the way THEY want to be treated.
Let’s make this Galentine’s Day a celebration of love, good quality friendship for all and fun!
– Ella Miels, Head Prefect
– Ingrid Ledger, Deputy Head Prefect